Being in Wholeness

Healing the inner child is a gentle and powerful process that helps us reconnect with our original sense of safety, trust, and worth. Many of our patterns in love such as fear of abandonment, unworthiness, or needing constant reassurance, stem from childhood wounds.

When our inner child is wounded we can often find ourselves feeling like an outcast or an orphan throughout our adult lives, often stemming from early experiences of rejection, abandonment, or not feeling fully accepted by caregivers or peers. These wounds can leave a deep sense of loneliness, unworthiness, and longing for belonging. The child within might feel like they don’t belong or that they are somehow different, which can carry into adult relationships, making trust and intimacy challenging.

Healing this wound involves offering yourself unconditional love and reassurance, as if nurturing that vulnerable child. It’s about showing the inner child that they are deserving of love, acceptance, and a sense of belonging regardless of past rejection. Through compassionate inner child work, you can begin to rewrite the narrative of feeling unwanted, opening your heart to genuine connection and a sense of wholeness. This healing allows us to let go of past pain, fears, and protective defenses that keep us stuck in unfulfilling or insecure relationships. It grants us the freedom to attract healthier, more genuine love because we’re no longer acting out old wounds or seeking external validation to fill inner voids.

Ultimately, healing the inner child creates a foundation of self-love, trust, and emotional resilience, inviting love that’s authentic, deep, and nourishing.

EXERCISE

Inner child meditation

~ Take a moment to settle into meditation. After some relaxed breaths, begin to visualize yourself as a child. See what they look like, notice their feelings. Allow memories to surface without getting drawing into them.

~ Imagine wrapping them in a warm, loving embrace. You can speak softly to your inner child: "I see you. I love you. You are safe now." Offer them comfort and reassure them that they are loved and protected. If difficult feelings come up you can say, “It’s okay to feel this way. I’m here for you.”

~ Now take some time to create a new past for your inner child, the past they needed. Imagine a world full of healthy love and connection, feeling safe and held. Allow your inner child and your current self both to be changed as you reprogram your past. Stay with this feeling for some time, then slowly bring your awareness back to the present.

A letter to your inner child

~ Write a letter addressed to your inner child. Acknowledge their feelings, fears, and needs. Reassure them that they are safe, loved, and good enough. Offer kind words of encouragement and support. You can reread the letter regularly whenever you need comfort.

Healing play and expression

~ Carve out a “play date” with your inner child, where you get the chance to do activities that bring you joy or nostalgia—drawing, singing, dancing, or playing. Allow yourself to play without judgment or expectation, allowing any feelings to be present including awkardness or resistance. Where possible, let your inner child express freely and authentically. As this starts to feel more natural, notice how this lightens your emotional landscape and reconnects you with your innocence.